This weekend has been reserved for much-needed decompression time. The problem with go-go-go nonstop is that I need down time in order to properly evaluate everything that’s going on: to look at what’s going on, re-evaluate what I want, and figure my shit out.
One of Jenn’s buddies from California is over for the night, and I opened up the door to find a tall, blue-eyed guy in a suit staring back at me, and felt a startled jolt at the idea that ah, yes, this was the guy I’d been hearing about for the last five years, standing at my doorway… and I looked at him, and he looked at me, and sweet fuck, he’s pretty. And damn, yes, he’s currently single.
We all went out for dinner, and the plan after that was to go to the Hancock Tower for drinks and then go out to the Second City comedy club and have a night of it… but after dinner, when we came back to the place so Jenn could switch coats, I realized I really didn’t want to go out on the town. I just wanted to be home. I leave for New Jersey again on Monday. All I want is this time, here, in my own bed, sleeping and mulling over everything that’s going on. I haven’t had enough downtime.
So I bowed out of the rest, and here I am, preparing for bed, trying to work some stuff out, wondering about life, about what I want, about how everything can fit together, wondering about… just, everything, and how it can all go spectacularly wrong and change you forever, for better or worse.
I wonder, sometimes, if relationships are just sort of like the rest of the things in my life… something I’m so afraid of, but need to come to grips with in order to live fully.
I’ve been told that vertigo is not, in fact, the fear of falling – it’s your mind fighting your body’s desire to fall. We have a tendancy to desire those jumps, those freefalls into space, and what we fight, the battle we wage, is desire against logic.
For some bridges, the big kind, the ones you jump off in order to die, these are good battles to fight: having some wit keeps you breathing. But for those more modest bridges, the ones, say 55 ft. tall with a freefall into water, well, those are more realistic bridges; the ones our mind might fear, but the sort of jump that will make us different, better, for having jumped it.
That’s what I’m decompressing.