He Was Asking For It, Your Honor. I Was Ovulating, and He Wasn’t Wearing a Shirt. Biological Imperatives, and All That

I’m sorry, what was that? You mean if I find a guy sexy I can’t beat him up, molest him, and go home? Dude, he was totally asking for it! He was wandering around after dark, looking drunk, and wearing a damn fine pair of ass-hugging jeans! I couldn’t control myself!

I’m sorry, you said, I have to be able to control myself because I’m a woman? I can’t just bash somebody around and take them home? WTF?

I wasn’t going to link to this discussion about the well-trod “she was asking for it” argument about rape, because it’s the same old story [oh, come on, you guys, most rape and abuse is actually from somebody you know, it’s not about sex, it’s about power, blah blah, I should have a standard post for this] until I read this bit, which I had to share:


“Actually, I’m sorry to say that it’s very likely that you DID hurt some people. Some guys no doubt looked at you and lusted after you. That brought them down a sinful path. What if some 21 year old guy looked at you lustfully? Encouraging a 21 year old guy to lust after a 13 year old is bad for the 21 year old guy.

Oh, and I really don’t want to get into an argument about what is harmful or not harmful. I just want to let you know that some people feel that scantily clad women make their lives more difficult. The younger the scantily clad woman is, the worse (more illegal) the temptation could be.”


“So, to review, ladies… once we hit puberty, and probably before then, we are responsible for the thoughts that men have when they look at us. It’s our responsiblity to dress appropriately so that men are not troubled with lustful thoughts.

Now why does that sound familiar? Oh yeah, because it is what is generally taught in psycho misogynistic religious cults!

In short, prisoner6655321, kiss my feminist ass.

You know, I’m very good at dealing with my lustful thoughts. If said lustful thoughts get too intense, I can always get off the train, or stop looking. Thinking a guy is hot doesn’t entitle me to force him to come home with me (yea, I know, rape isn’t about “hotness” – but let’s pretend, OK? Makes the psychos feel better).

If there were fewer scantily-clad men in the world, it would be a sad, sad, place. But I understand the dangers: women just can’t control themselves. They’re ravenous hormonal beasts. So if we need to put men in burkas in order to protect them from their own inherent hotness, well, you gotta do what you gotta do.

I’m sorry, who wants to live in that world?

via Ginmar

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