Should I feel bad that I pretty much have experienced all of these? Put a star by the one about getting angrier…
You have a lot on your mind, just not work. The work doesn’t challenge you and time hangs. “Boredom is a big factor,” Hollander said. “When it’s just a job, it’s time to leave.”
Things change, not to your advantage. The boss you got along with so well leaves, or worse, takes on a new favorite employee. Eventually that person gets layered in above you on the corporate ladder, intercepting your access to the boss, taking over plum projects and moving you out of the decision-making loop.
Hollander describes this as “death by a thousand cuts.” The change is subtle at first, but your loss of status compounds over time.
Your boss takes you for granted. You do something well and you get pigeonholed as the company expert in that area. Or you’re no longer seen as having potential for new projects. Or, just as bad, you’re known as the good corporate citizen who’ll do whatever you’re asked – including relocating multiple times.
You pigeonhole yourself. Hollander knows top performers who stay at their jobs because they don’t believe they could succeed elsewhere. “The longer you’re at a place, the more you think your success depends on your environment,” she said. Or you lose confidence that you can do anything else.
Your mood ranges from angry to angrier. No matter how well-regarded your work is or once was, if you develop a reputation as a depressing crank, colleagues will distance themselves. And that isolation can make you more vulnerable in a layoff.
You feel like hell. Unhappiness can undermine your health, said Paul Spector, professor of industrial and organizational psychology at the University of South Florida. Early signs of excess stress: stomachaches, headaches and insomnia.