Some Men Are More Monstrous Than Others: On True Detective’s Men & Monsters

Some Men Are More Monstrous Than Others: On True Detective’s Men & Monsters

Apr 15, 2014

Spoilers ahoy!   When I was sixteen, I dated a guy a with a madonna/whore complex. I had no idea what that was, at the time, being a young woman from a rural town where belittling women as sluts and whores was pretty typical. You were either “the type of woman men married” or you were… well, probably a slut. All I knew was that when he talked about...

With Great Power Comes Great Responsibility: On Empathy and the Power of Privilege

With Great Power Comes Great Responsibility: On Empathy and the Power of Privilege

Mar 5, 2014

I had the questionable delight of hanging out with a 3 year old for the last week, and at some point, when I hauled off his pants so he could go “Pee-pee in the potty” he proceeded to sit on said toilet for a solid five minutes having an argument with me because I’d said “Hey!” when he tried to hit his mother. “You YELLED at me!” he yelled. “We...

Die Hard, Hetaera, and Problematic Pin-Ups: A Rant

Die Hard, Hetaera, and Problematic Pin-Ups: A Rant

Feb 14, 2014

I watch Die Hard at least a couple of times a year; it’s one of the best written films out there. But there were always two moments in the film that confounded me from the very start, even when I watched it as a kid. There’s a moment when John McClane is upstairs in the floors under construction, and he’s trying to figure out how to get the attention of...

The Body Project, a Prelude (or, your body is a battlefield)

The Body Project, a Prelude (or, your body is a battlefield)

Dec 14, 2013

My body has always been a place of battle. When I was younger, it was personal, self-inflicted strife encouraged by schoolyard taunts of “water  buffalo!” and “pig!” supplemented by family matriarchs who were permanently obsessed with the width of their own asses (and, very often, mine and that of my siblings), despite advanced degrees, working class...

The Blog Post that Lost Me Half My Audience

The Blog Post that Lost Me Half My Audience

Oct 10, 2013

Back when I first started this blog in 2004, I grew an audience that was primarily and deeply feminist. My regular traffic was about 400 visits at day, which – at the time – seemed like a whole lot of people. Then I wrote a post about “women-only” forums that pissed off a whole lot of people, and my readership fell in half.  Obviously things have...

Dear SFWA Writers: Let’s Chat About Censorship & Bullying

Dear SFWA Writers: Let’s Chat About Censorship & Bullying

May 31, 2013

So. I get it. The world used to agree with you. You used to be able to say things like, “I really like those lady writers in this industry, especially in swimsuits!” and your fellow writers, editors, agents, and other assorted colleagues would all wink and grin and agree with you, and Asimov would go around pinching women’s asses, and it was so cool! So...

“We Have Always Fought” Guest Post at A Dribble of Ink

“We Have Always Fought” Guest Post at A Dribble of Ink

May 20, 2013

I invite you to check out this guest post I did over at A Dribble of Ink on women fighters: I’m going to tell you a story about llamas. It will be like every other story you’ve ever heard about llamas: how they are covered in fine scales; how they eat their young if not raised properly; and how, at the end of their lives, they hurl themselves –...

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